It has been said that any given person is the average of the 5 people they spend most of their time with. I’m sure we’ve all heard this saying before, right? But have you ever given yourself the time to really think about what that means for you?
Let me repeat myself.
You are the SUM TOTAL of the 5 people you surround yourself with the most. Let that sink in.
For me, that includes: my husband and my 4 closest friends (I’ll omit the names for now).
For the sake of making this easy, I’m going to list the top characteristic for each of the 5 people I spend the majority of my time with:
So, these are my top 5. If I were to replace their names with what I believe resembles them the most, these 5 characteristics would be their titles, which theoretically mean these are the 5 traits that make me me.
I can’t stress the importance of this enough you guys, surround yourself with like-minded people that are going to not only improve your quality of life, but will make you a better person as well.
Now, I have to say (in the fairness of being objective) every single person has their own definition of who they want to be, what they find to be important, and what kinds of people they choose to surround themselves with and I fully support that! No one person’s viewpoint is correct—ever. But whatever it is for you, find people that will lead you to that perfect place in your life—the sweet spot.
We all have those friends who are in our lives out of political obligation. Let’s be honest. We all have friends we only see once a week between Friday and Sunday. Our “weekend friends”. And (I’m gonna let you in on a little secret here), THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
“Every single person you meet comes into your life at a certain point for a certain reason and that is no mistake.”
But the 5 people you surround yourself with the most, that is 100% up to you, so choose wisely. Save a space in your heart for those who aren’t at the same place you are at right now. I’m not saying cut people out. I’m not saying completely lose touch and abandon all hope. I am simply suggesting (from my own experience) that as we get older our time is very limited. Life gets hectic, our priorities change, and time tends to run out when we need it the most. So take the very little time you do have to invest in relationships that are worthwhile and meaningful.
I challenge each and every one of you to take some time and reflect on this. Who are the 5 people you surround yourself with the most. What are their best traits? Have you found that you reflect them? Do you like what you’re discovering about yourself?
If yes, then great! You’re on the right path.
If not, make a change. It is 100% up to YOU.
Your friends, your significant others, they are a direct reflection of YOU.
Who do you want people to see?
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